Today we are chatting with Meditation and Performance Coach Mark Guay about how to unlock your unlimited potential and lead a life with greater purpose, energy, and connection! In this episode we're talking all about meditation and the many ways it can be helpful for people, including manifesting their unlimited potential, how to prepare your energy before a big meeting/event, how to achieve deep sleep, etc.
Mark Guay is a meditation teacher and performance coach based in San Diego, California. He combines developmental psychology with the ancient art of the chakra system to unlock your unlimited potential and lead a life with greater purpose, energy, and connection. He has been featured on NBC7, Insight Timer, and Elephant Journal. To learn more about his upcoming intensives and future writings, head to markwguay.me.com
Some of the questions/topics discussed in this episode:
-Meditation best practices
-Full Steam Ahead - Mark's acronym for manifesting your dreams
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Speaker 1: (00:01)
Hey guys, it's Stephanie and welcome to another episode of the glam life of real estate podcast. Today we have a special treat. Mark whey is in the house and he's awesome. This episode's running in and run a little long today, but Mark is a meditation teacher and a performance coach based in San Diego and we talk about a lot of things. So I found Mark on a meditation that I was doing. He was actually the guide for it and I reached out and he was kind enough to join us today. So guys, we're going to talk about manifesting your deepest desires, how to tap into your unlimited potential. We're going to talk about some breathing exercises to get your energy up before a big event to give you power. We're going to talk about how to get some great sleep, so stay tuned. This isn't our normal. Let's talk about real estate, but I think you're going to get a lot of value out of it and then stick around to the end because I'm going to give you some juicy details on a giveaway. We're running through the end of this. May May, 2020 so you definitely don't want to miss out on that. So stay tuned.
Speaker 2: (01:06)
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Speaker 1: (01:39)
All right guys. So we have the privilege of talking to someone. Kind of a unique episode. Today we're going to be talking about mindset. We're gonna be talking about meditation. Our guest Mark gateway is a meditation teacher and a performance coach based in San Diego, California. He combines developmental psychology with the ancient are of the shocker system to unlock your unlimited potential and lead a life with greater purpose, energy, and connection. He has been featured on NBC seven insight timer, which is where I found him, an elephant journal, and so we're going to chat with him today. We're going to talk about mindset, meditation, how to manifest our unlimited potential, all the things. So welcome Mark. Thanks for being here today on the show. Thanks so much for having me. It's a privilege. So to kick it off because ah, there's so much we could talk about.
Speaker 1: (02:34)
Can you give us an idea of what you do? Because when I, I found you on insight timer and I reached out, but then I was really intrigued when I read, read your LinkedIn profile because it said you were a coach and it sounded like he coached professionals on mindset. And I was like, Ooh, I've got to get him in front of my audience so that we can talk. Because a lot of my audiences in sales or in marketing, high stress, high performance jobs. And so I thought that you would be a great person to talked us today.
Speaker 3: (03:00)
Yeah, thanks so much. So what I find is that meditation and then at the station in general is a beautiful tool to help people tune into their soul's purpose and who they really are and what it is that they love to do in this life. And so unfortunately there's a lot of people who are thirties and their forties who find themselves, they have the money, they have the car, they have all those things that they had thought that they needed and come to find out that they're not happy and they don't know why. So yeah, most of the people that I work with are exceptionally high performing entrepreneurs, business owners, these amazing people. But they want to make a change in their life that brings them home to who they really are and a sense of happiness. And so manifestation is that beautiful tool that helps you do that.
Speaker 1: (04:01)
So where do you, where do you start with that? Like, so when you have a client come to you, how do you start that process? Because they're probably kind of beside themselves thinking, Oh my gosh, I've worked so hard to get to where I am and I'm still not happy. What's wrong with me?
Speaker 3: (04:18)
Yeah, that's a great question. I mean, really what it comes down to is what's each client that I work with. It's an established focus. So what's the change that you wish to seek in your life, right? Is it to write that book that you said you were going to write? Is it to start that business? Is it to, uh, maybe exit that relationship that potentially might not exactly be serving you? Or is it to really come in alignment more with who you really are? I mean, who am I that that's such a, an amazing question that we often ask as kids. And then we sort of stop asking because it's a difficult question to ask, right? It's not a question that our society often honors. So when a new person comes to me, usually by referral, we'll probably talk about social media a little bit later on. Uh, it's establishing, so what's going on in your life, what's showing up? And from there we establish a focus.
Speaker 1: (05:13)
So do you start right off the bat with meditation or,
Speaker 3: (05:21)
yeah, so most people come to me from manifestation. So usually insight timer is where most people find out about my work and they want to manifest some sort of change in their life. Right. And in our relationship, we talk a lot about what manifestation means and what exists or how exactly you go from just sitting down and doing a beautiful meditation to actually bringing those elements of manifestation into your life.
Speaker 1: (05:50)
And that was the episode or the, or the meditation I was listening to. I was listening to the manifestor unlimited potential on insight timer.
Speaker 3: (05:58)
Yeah. And that one has been thankfully really popular. It's been, it's something I did in that one, just really connected with people. And Stephanie, it was funny too, because that meditation came out of a time in my life where I was kind of going, WTF what's going on here? And I had started to learn about, uh, learn a lot about manifestation. And at that same time too, I was really studying developmental psychology. And I saw people like Abraham Maslow and Carl Young had really pulled a lot of their, uh, amazing ideas from the ancient text and the shocker system. And I saw that, okay, if we were able to, if I'm able to combine these two things, would that serve people? And so I've put that meditation out there after practicing it myself for a couple of years and found something. And it's been a meditation that's been so helpful for people and I get these incredible messages from people around the world, uh, that
Speaker 3: (07:05)
these things that they once thought they weren't able to have in their life, the career that they absolutely love, the house that they dreamed of, but they thought, huh, that's never going to happen. All of a sudden it occurs. And what's fascinating about that is what it does for a lot of people is it gives them them this sense of what's going on here? What's this? What's this life about? Wait a second, I thought I was in complete control. D did I just manifest that house? And it's this really interesting sense of empowerment and also this sense of surrendering to the great mystery is this amazing dance that makes people go, Whoa, wait a second. Who am I? Who like, what can I really do here in this life? How do I want to serve my soul's purpose in the greater contribution to the community as a whole as well?
Speaker 1: (08:07)
Does that make sense? Yeah. And I'm writing some stuff down because I don't want to forget it. Um, because I want to ask you about your background and your journey about how you got to where you are. But then I also wrote down the word surrender and empower because especially for the audience, if they're in sales or some kind of entrepreneurial career focus, I think that's really important because so much of the time we want to control everything because we feel like we have to drive the bus either too, get clients to close the deal. And so the word empower is a positive word versus control because it just has a different connotation. But then the word surrender can be kind of scary because it's almost like this, Ooh, do I take the foot off the gas and then what happens? So I want to dig into that in a little bit. I do want to understand your journey and how you got to where you're at as far as, I'm assuming you use the manifestation to get to where you are. And I thought that would be a great way to, to kick it off so people will connect with you. Sure.
Speaker 3: (09:06)
Yeah. Yeah. So the manifestation journey for me began out of a, a dark time in my life where I had everything that I had wanted. Yeah. My wife was very ill and she came down with an illness called Lyme disease. We were living in New York at the time. And yeah,
Speaker 1: (09:29)
Speaker 3: (09:31)
a great job. I had great community. I was a USA triathlon coach and the teacher and was enjoying all of those things. Uh, but then my wife wasn't, uh, able to work any longer and because of the Lyme disease, and so our income as a house, you know, came or it got cut in half and our, what we had as a house down, down payment ended up going away, two medical bills because they weren't covered by, uh, health insurance. And so it brought me to, I'd always had a meditation practice that I started as a teenager when I used to go and sit behind my mother's house and sit by the tree for 45 minutes and had these amazing experiences becoming one with nature and all those beautiful things that happen when you sit and meditate. But this form of method of meditation, this manifestation practice of which I was introduced to, uh, there were a few people, Wayne Dyer being one of the main ones and Bhakti yoga as well.
Speaker 3: (10:42)
I just started practicing it. And so, no joke, Stephanie, I would wake up at four 30 in the morning and I would started meditating and I developed this practice. I would play around with the different shocker centers. I would play around with different images and that's when I started to see those dots connect between Maslow's work and his hierarchy of needs and the self actualization and the chakra system and how you chakra really does represent, there's different elements of what we need to live our whole full, complete self self actualization. Okay. And I kept it to myself because Stephanie, I was raised in a, I went to a Catholic school growing up. I was raised in a very small, uh, blue collar
Speaker 1: (11:33)
community. And so they're like, if you meditate, you don't believe in God. Yeah. That was right. That was the thing. And I've heard that too.
Speaker 3: (11:40)
Yeah. When I was a kid, you know, I was a huge fan of Jesus and I still am. And then I thought of becoming a Zen monk. And so I've always been on this path, but yet this thing I kept private because, well, for one I'm a very grounded person. Even though lately in the last few years I've really come to an appreciation of what I thought earlier was crazy out there, Lou. So I did this privately for a couple of years where I developed this a manifestation practice that became the insight timer meditation that you found and things started happening to where it got to the point where I literally was had one of those moments where it was like, uh, like there's a curtain, I'm like looking to like peel behind the curtain of the wizard of Oz. Like God, you're there like Whoa, Holy moly.
Speaker 3: (12:35)
Like um, things are happening now that I just sort of started imagining, uh, what's going on, what you imagine or try to manifest cause you just might get it. That's one of the main things that I usually share with clients, right? Is that manifestation is real. It's no joke and it's that whole be careful what you wish for, right? Because the things that the things come to you and [inaudible] I'll get into a little bit more of the key strategy of how to, you know, have a mini manifestation practice. Okay. But these things started coming to me where I was imagining sitting on the beach with my wife in San Diego. I was in New York in a small town just North of New York city, working as a high school, a high school English teacher at the time. And I imagined, uh, sitting there with my laptop on the beach and being able to work with boats.
Speaker 3: (13:33)
At that time, my job was tied to a classroom, right. And over the next year I started podcasting just like you're doing here. And it just so happens Carl Young would call it synchronicity. Others might just call it coincidence. One person that I interviewed just happened to run an online business and we became kind of a connection, nothing more than just you and I right here. And all of a sudden things got really bad with my wife's Lyme disease. And I said, I, this is what's going on here. And this little voice in my head, one day in meditation said the Mediterranean climate and might help. So we brought it up to our doctor at the time and the doctor said, yeah, there's, there's the old saying that the meditating dry climate will help with the healing. And we had seen that one of the clear correlations to her inflammation was the fluctuation of temperature and the humidity.
Speaker 3: (14:37)
So long. Yeah, so long story short is I said, okay, well let's go in, stay in San Diego for a month. Let's just go into the, we had the summers off. It just so happens that that person, I had mentioned to you, her business partner, a house in San Diego, and he just so happened to buy a house in Kauai and I said, Hey, I just sent them a message. Hey, I'm looking for a house to rent for the summer. Do you know anyone? He goes, Oh, you can use my house because I just bought this new house in Kauai. I'm like, that was so small. And I'm like, okay, cool. Like whatever. It didn't hit. It didn't occur to me that like these things were happening, right. It just felt like, Oh, how lucky am I? And then a few months go by and he goes, Hey, would you have any interest in working full time from us?
Speaker 3: (15:24)
And I said, well, I live in New York. I don't know if that's possible. He said, Oh, well it's remote, you can live wherever you want. And I said, Oh, I really love teaching on her. They know about that. Her illness got a little worse. And we said, Hey, you were great in San Diego. We saw amazing healing in San Diego. Like this is beautiful. Literally we flew here in a wheelchair and then, uh, within just about a week's time she was walking and after three weeks she was doing so much better. And so we sort of put up our hands and said, like, God, the universe, whatever words you want to use. Like what are we going to do here? Cause this is, this is hard. And then that note came in about taking that remote job and then we said, okay, let's give it a shot.
Speaker 3: (16:07)
So we both resigned from our jobs in New York and we moved out to San Diego. And then about a week or two after we moved here, my wife goes, she's a writer, she writes novels. And she goes, yeah, Hey, do you want to go work at the beach? Cause we can. And I'm like, yeah, sure. So then I go down and I'm sitting on the computer and I'm typing on my computer and I'm working, I'm using my cell phone is the wifi, and then all of a sudden it was like, Hmm, yeah, this is literally, this is literally what you were thinking about two years ago when you sat at four 30 in the morning doing your manifestation practice, and that just made me go, Holy moly, this is real. Like this stuff is real. And there's been several other things that have happened since then and I only share this story with people now because one of the main tenants of manifestation is you don't share what it is that you are trying to manifest with anyone until after it actually occurs. So [inaudible] that was the first moment. And then seeing it with people that they do this manifestation meditation on insight timer and then with the clients that I work with, it's really a profound experience for people when they realize that, yeah, you do have power, tremendous power to make great change in your life. How it happens is usually where the surrendering comes in.
Speaker 1: (17:41)
Okay. So I have a couple of questions just in case someone's sitting there thinking, well, this guy's been meditating since he was a kid. So like did you, were you taught as a kid when you're behind your mom's house meditating? Like how did you even, I mean, come on, let's be real. How'd you start that process? Like especially if someone's listening that either has never meditated or tried to meditate and they ended up scrolling Instagram. Oh yeah, I'm sorry. I think I was guilty of that this morning.
Speaker 3: (18:10)
Oh, that's too funny. That's very funny. I like that a lot. Well, okay. First of all, let's back up just a second. Okay. So I used to be a USA triathlon coach and a personal trainer,
Speaker 1: (18:19)
which by the way, this is not coincidence. I literally was on Instagram last night on my story saying, all right, I committed to training and my second half marathon of all time, we're going to be running it in Nashville, which is crazy that they had the tornado last night on April 25th and I need to get with you cause I need some help on some, some placements so my knees don't hurt. But anyways, that's a whole nother thing. But yeah, it's kinda fun.
Speaker 3: (18:47)
Well we have, we'll talk and there's a, there's a few great women coaches I know I can connect you with as well, but yeah, I bring that up just because I know you're, you're in great shape and, and Fitnesses is something that's, you know, that's, that's crucial to you. Um, so wait, I forgot where we were going there. Cause I was saying,
Speaker 1: (19:05)
we're talking about, we're talking about as a kiddo, like how did you even start? You're like, you wanted to start back.
Speaker 3: (19:12)
So, so here's the, here's the thing, right? When someone says to you, Hey, I work out.
Speaker 1: (19:16)
Speaker 3: (19:17)
You go, okay, cool. What do you do? It's like, are you that person that's in the pool? Like you know, I see these people in the pool now that are doing these crazy movements and it's like they're dancing in the pool and I'm like, sweet, that's awesome. Or are you that person that is running the triathlon or the marathon? Or are you the powerlifter that's, you know, deadlifted 500 pounds or whatever over there? Like
Speaker 1: (19:41)
it means so many different things.
Speaker 3: (19:42)
It's so many different things, right? It's your anaerobic, it's your aerobic, it's, or is it just literally, I just need to get more arterial blood to the brain? If you're going to do inversions as a Yogi, like right? It's a very general statement. You don't just work out. It's like, well, what are you working out for? Okay, so with meditation it's the same thing, right? Meditation is literally just disciplined focus. That's essentially what it is. If I'm going to really just make it as simple as possible, what does it mean? Discipline focus? The Navy seals before they go into do a, uh, you know, a mission that the Ron, when they're sitting there in the dark and the helicopter flying into their mission, they often practice box breathing, which is simply just four part breathing. Right. And why do they do that? Because it focuses them and it moves, uh, the parasympathetic nervous system helps us calm down.
Speaker 3: (20:37)
So when they get off on that mission, they're able to be disciplined focus. They're not thinking about the bill that they need to pay. They're thinking about what the, you know, what's going on fully present to the moment. And that's not only survival. It also leads to why the heck they're Navy seals. And I know Navy seals personally, these guys are one of the Mo, some of those beautiful, beautiful men and women that I know. But yeah, they have focus and they can get stuff done. It's incredible. So yeah, meditation is just, what do you want to accomplish with it? And most people, I mean, if you're religious, if you follow a religion like Christianity meditation or prayer is meditation. It's disciplined, focused on these words that bring you closer to God. That's, that's a form of meditation. Doing the four-part breathing, that's mindfulness space, stress reduction.
Speaker 3: (21:35)
That's a simple way to calm down so that when you approach situation or a decision, you're approaching from a place of calm, a place of non reactivity, and you're able to make better decisions. Manifestation. That's another type of meditation that's a meditation that brings you in touch with your soul, which is sometimes in great disconnection too. The self that we have here in the physical world, right? So we have our physical self and our soul self and it also brings into play what I call the great mystery. I'm not the first one to call it to, to dimension that, but it's this idea that there are, whether you call it God or the universe, the great mystery, it's are there elements out there that are in reaction to you and what it is that you're trying to manifest in the world? Usually through your thoughts and through the emotions that we put out.
Speaker 3: (22:39)
Okay, so how did I get into the meditation? The initial question. Well when I was a kid, it was mostly prayer and then meditation. It wasn't until a teenager and I just was that kid who said, okay, I get this world while we're here, but I want to know more. So the big question is how did we get here? Where did we go after? What's this thing called? His soul was Jesus, man was Jesus God. Like these are the questions that I was just really intrigued by. So that curiosity continued and then it was a trip to Hawaii and a friend, his dad who was a Zen practitioner, he gave me a book and it was a very simple book. It was called Buddhism is not what you think by Steve Hagan. And it is just a very layman term book about what meditation is.
Speaker 3: (23:30)
And, and that's really it. And so I would go, I would run a mile to the beach. This is when I first got introduced to triathlon cause you know, Ironman is big out there. And I was living in Hawaii, uh, this actually a sophomore year of college now where I really started to pick it up and I would run a mile. And which was hard by the way. Fast forward 10 years, you know, 20 miles was a training run run right for the marathon. But a mile was, Oh my God, it was hard. I would do, I would go to this surf spot and I would practice Zaza and meditation, which is the Zenfone and meditation, which is literally you sit and you breathe and anytime a thought comes about you just acknowledge it. Can you send it on its way? And then you come into a relationship with the monkey mind and how our mind can just race and race and race.
Speaker 3: (24:24)
And so I just started in five minutes was a hell of a time. Yes. And, and that was fine. It was great. It was just like, you know, bench pressing 115 pounds. That was hard at first. And then eventually that gets really easy. And so eventually that would work up to 10 minutes and then the 20 minutes and then it would work up to where when I was at my mother's house, I'm, this is on a college break, aye, would it sit on the tree behind the fence? Because I read that the Buddha sat for 40 years by the Bodhi tree and I just thought that was cool. So I was a kid and I'm like, okay, I'm going to go sit by the tree for 40 minutes. And I did it. And it was this profound experience of interconnectedness. We've all heard that phrase, one missing interconnectedness. But what happened is I was sitting at the tree and then all of a sudden these bugs started crawling all over me and I was like, Oh cool, look at those bugs like interesting. And then a deer w it came up like about 10 feet from me and I had realized that it's not acting like it normally does, does it see me? But I didn't move my eyes. I just stayed focused.
Speaker 3: (25:35)
Yeah, as long. As long as you keep your eyes open as you're staring down the tip of your nose at us at a fixed location. Okay. Yeah. And the deer just ate some leaves or whatever it was. And this came across my periphery and then through my, my vision and then out and, and, and rewind us a little bit in Hawaii. It was the same thing when I sat for even just five minutes. He's a lot of the lava rock that I sat on, right, right near Hawaii. Kai, all of a sudden after a few minutes, the rock started to move because the crowds came out cause they were comfortable with me being there. And you could say that my energy had become interconnected with the energy of the rocks are the tree around me. But regardless of that fact, I felt one with nature. And it was this deep sense of peace, this deep sense of soul purpose. And that just sort of led me on this journey of like, okay, this is like, this is another tool. This is a great tool for personal discovery. So do the people that are wondering how to get started. And we'll sit your ass down for five minutes and, and try not to think with your eyes open,
Speaker 1: (26:44)
looking at the tip of your nose. Kind of just like relaxed,
Speaker 3: (26:49)
not at the tip of your nose. So the Zen method is uh, without talking about where your hands are, you just come to a relaxed position and you keep your eyes open and you at, you stared down like where the tip of your nose is, but to a fixed location in front of you. Okay. So like right now it would be the letter six on my keyboard and that's where my eyes would stay. And then on the inhale I would count one, the exhale I would count too and I would go up to 10 and I would come back to one. And you do that for about 42 minutes. But even five minutes to start is fine. But I'll tell you though, Stephanie and I was at this, I'm not monastery and New York. Wow. When they mean sit still, they mean sit still. And so for just over 40 minutes, twice a day, we sat there and utter stillness that with that type of meditation it was very profound.
Speaker 1: (27:45)
And when you're doing that, is that a type of meditation where you need to kind of know why you're meditating or is it about getting in the right habit if you don't know yet? And then just kind of going with it and growing.
Speaker 3: (27:58)
The value I see in [inaudible] is it helps you, I think the number one thing that it helps you do is it helps you become aware of the thought patterns that run through your head.
Speaker 1: (28:12)
Speaker 3: (28:12)
And so often these thought patterns just kind of keep coming back. They keep coming back. And if you acknowledge it and you let it go and it keeps coming back, well then maybe you sit with it and go, why does that keep coming back? And it just creates this filter that allows you, once you're done to reenter your day, far more calm than you were before with a deeper sense of understanding of what's showing up in my life right now. What actions do I need to take? And that design is that it's not them, it's just a very beautiful practice. But for most people, I'm just doing it for like five or 10 minutes a day can just help you just declutter the mind. Especially when you're in something like real estate or entrepreneurship, the mind's always gone, right?
Speaker 1: (29:01)
Right. So I think, I know like I'm pretty sure I know what the shocker system means. Like when I'm listening to your meditation and you walk through, I would call it like the rainbow through your body, but can you explain what it means and like what?
Speaker 3: (29:18)
Yeah, absolutely. So the easiest way to explain it is it's just different centers of the spinal column that come to represent different elements of life, right? So your root chakra, which is going to be near your mother Bunda, which is all the way at the root of your spine, is going to be like the lower level of the pyramid for Maslow's hierarchy, right? It's your sense of grounding your sense of food, shelter, water, right? And then all the way at the top, right, your crown chakra, which could be violet, which is often the color associated with it. That's going to be your connection to spirit, your connection to soul guidance. If you're Christian, that would be your connection to Christ and then your heart chakra, right, which is that we booed, which would be at your chest, which is associated with the color green is your sense of love, your sense of love for yourself and the way in which you show love in the world and then throat, the way in which you would speak to yourself, which we can talk about self talk all day here, and then also the words that you use when you interact with the world and then your third eye would be tapping into your intuition more about, well how does this feel in connection to my soul's purpose as opposed to what I'm told I'm supposed to do by society.
Speaker 3: (30:45)
And then we can go down. Your beneath the heart is the solar plexus, right? And that's your sense of self esteem and then you're and the chakra underneath that full of orange. It would be your power, your sexual energy. That's where the sexual organs are. And we could talk about that as well. But each chakra just talks about the different elements of the self and how you can show up here in the world and without go into too much detail here. Typically in the meditation, when you go from the root to the crown, the sacral chakra, the one with the sexual organs, that tends to, we were a lot of people spend a lot of time, but there's always one shocker too that just takes a little bit longer. So when you're going through that meditation, like when I do it live or when I do it online by myself without, you know, obviously listening to a recording, it's interesting to see which one takes longer.
Speaker 3: (31:46)
If it's for instance, when you move up to the solar plexus, right, which is your sense of self esteem, your sense of I can do this. It's, that's if it's taking long for you to move from there to your heart, well that might be a place of course, in your life that you need to work on. So that would be standing in front of the mirror. And instead of doing affirmations using I, you stand in front of the mirror and you switched to you and you parent yourself and you speak words of love to yourself that could be staring in the mirror looking in your own eyes and saying, I love you for 10 minutes. And for some people that's easy. For others, when they find out that maybe they, they aren't really showing love to themselves, it can be this profound moving experience where they do fall in love with themselves and it's utterly, utterly profound.
Speaker 1: (32:40)
So when you're going through meditation and, and you did and you're guiding everyone through and you're going from the different chakras, you're saying if you don't feel like emotionally or mentally, you're moving at the speed of the meditation that maybe you're stuck somewhere. There's work to be done in that area.
Speaker 3: (33:02)
That's an interesting phrase. You know, there's always work that can be done. I like to make sure that people don't get caught up in the, there's work to be done because I think it's super important that people love who they are. No matter where they're at. I think that's really key. Our culture does a very good job of telling you that you need more to be successful. You need more to be beautiful, blah, blah, blah. Um, but yeah, there's always something that you can focus on because that's just the nature of life. We're an evolving species. I mean there's, we, we're growing until we're dead.
Speaker 1: (33:36)
Oh, so we're here today talk about how to grow. So how do you, how do you manifest? So let's say someone's listening, maybe they've tried meditation or not. I think in this day and age we all have heard like, yeah, it's important to work out. Yeah. It's important to meditate for mindset. So let's assume everyone's heard about it. How do they start the process of manifesting their unlimited potential or preparing their energy for something? What does that look like?
Speaker 3: (34:10)
So the meditation that I created at insight timer, which is free by the way, so everyone can go there. And I did actually just put up, because there's two versions, there's the original I put up and then I actually just launched an extended version simply because some people want to have more time, which is beautiful. I love that. So that one's a 25 minute meditation. So if you have that time available, go ahead and listen to that one. That's hard to do on your own. That takes some time. So after listening to the meditation for maybe a few months, you can start practicing it on your own and to be extremely clear like everything in that meditation is there for a very specific purpose. And the reason it goes through each of the chakras is so that you're fulfilling each of those areas of what Mazda attributed as the self actualization model or what Tony Robbins would call activating your greatness, all of the things that are needed to fully actualize your greatest self. Yeah, the simplest way for someone who is like just starting, just wondering about this whole thing, maybe they heard of the secret or something along those lines. It's the simple acronym that I use called full speed ahead. And I use that because, well, when you start manifesting and you fully commit to it, your life takes rapid transformation. So full speed ahead stands for three different things. Okay? Feel it, see it and act on it.
Speaker 3: (35:38)
So feel it meaning, so that which you wish to manifest into your life. Close your eyes, take a few breaths and imagine it happening. And I was on that beach. I imagined the feet or my feet, your toes curling in that sand. I felt the, I heard the seagulls, I felt the wind on my face. Whatever it is, if it's the house, if that's what you're going for, there's your clients, probably if they're real estate agents, they could actually even guide their clients through this. It's a beautiful, beautiful way of, of, uh, of, of finding out what you want and then, you know, seeing if that house will come into your life but feel it. What does it actually feel like on the emotional level? And this goes into the whole Taoist or tantric philosophy, that emotion is energy, but our emotions speak profoundly. So feel it. What is it that you really want and feel it. If you want to feel deep, deep love, deep penetrating love from your loved one, well then feel that if it's you want to feel abundance, well then see money being given to you feel, uh, that feeling of looking at your bank account and seeing the whatever number seems like an abundance to you but actually feel it. That's the key. So tapping into the emotion there.
Speaker 1: (37:01)
So would, would you say this is synonymous with like what they would call the law of attraction? Like with what the secret talks about or is this different?
Speaker 3: (37:09)
It is, it's based on the same elements. Without a doubt. I have some issues with the secret in simple terms. Um, because like a lot of people look at the secret and they go, Hey, I'm going to, I don't know, I want to manifest a red Ferrari in my life. And what they forget to mention again, as we mentioned earlier, be careful what you wish for. So if the red Ferrari's, what you really want in your life and you start practicing manifestation, that might mean letting go of some other things. That might mean having to change your career. That might mean having to change the way that you interact with the world so that the funds come in for that red for RV to come into your life. All these little things, right. And it also might all of a sudden come to the back to where you get the red Ferrari and you realized, I'm actually not too happy with this red Ferrari. That's not really what I wanted. So the secret is great as an introduction, but there's some nuanced things that I think a lot of people need to be aware of when they're going to, and they're going to start practicing this. Yeah.
Speaker 1: (38:12)
And is that why it's important to go through the shocker system to figure out if this is what you want, especially if it's a tangible, like a house or a car versus it being something more emotional. Like just to make sure that it lines up with everything or
Speaker 3: (38:28)
that's what I, that's what my belief is. Yeah. And so far in my work and through sharing this model with a lot of different, that's what seems to be happening. I'll admit firmly when I did it, I just trusted in what Mazda was talking about and trusted in the chakra system and said, well, Hey, if we're going to start manifesting, we should start working on hitting each of these different things so that when we manifest our greatest self or or unlimited potential, all of these things are at 10 out of 10 as opposed to one being 10 on a 10 and one being out of one out of 10 or something along those lines. So in effect, it's achieved great balance, but that certainly wasn't in my awareness when I created it.
Speaker 1: (39:12)
Do you ever have clients that come to you and say, I'm not happy. I want to find out. I want to find more happiness for more purpose, but when you ask them, okay, great, what do you want to manifest? Or what do you want to, you had the beach. What did they do they ever say, I don't know. I don't know what I necessarily want, but what I have, it's not getting me there.
Speaker 3: (39:32)
[inaudible] yeah, that's a great question. So no, not, it doesn't always, that's not often the case. Usually it's, they think they want something and then we do some work together and come to find out that what they actually want is, uh, something first. Right. So if they, for instance, uh, I think that they want a million dollars, what they actually really want is to actually feel grounded in their purpose, uh, or not having to worry about rents, you know, those types of things. Um, for those, that would be your question was, are they unsure of what, what they want to manifest in their life? The question I would ask themselves and why do they want to do it? Are they, how do they feel? And if they feel displeased with the present and they want to manifest change in their life, well then we would go to the base of motion.
Speaker 3: (40:23)
And this is one of the Cardinal rules of manifestation here. You don't talk about the specifics. So the, the second, the second rule, the see it, and then the third act on it, the sea. It is the pole is the Polaris expression. And so when I say see it, I mean if I'm manifesting abundance right, and it's, I'm hearing thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. I'm receiving cash. I'm the visualization of receiving cash or new clients coming in and going, you know, here's, here's a handful of cash for your work. Thank you so very much. That's a general idea of what it is. That's where the surrender comes in. Cause how that shows up in your life. Yeah. That's not in your control.
Speaker 1: (41:08)
That's key. Because I'm very literal. I'm a very literal person. So if you say, what do you want? I'm literally trying to pinpoint exactly what that looks like versus the more general term.
Speaker 3: (41:24)
Yeah. And this is where, you know, the critics can come in and talk about it and this is why I say that's fine. Go right ahead. That's where I say practice it. This, this, this type of thing is something that comes true when you practice it. It's not something that it can be argued in a textbook in any other way other than try it. Try it for a year, keep it silent, keep it secret. Don't tell anyone and see what happens. So to go to you with your original question, what, what would they want? I said, well, what emotion do you want? What feeling do you want? And almost everyone knows that feeling that they want. They want to feel loved, they want to feel, I want to feel like they mean something. They want to feel like a boss, right? Like whatever it is is one of the, they have, they have a feeling that they want, they want to feel used, they want to feel like, you know, they're sliding in and like they are, they want to feel energy, whatever it is.
Speaker 3: (42:20)
You start there and then you start attributing images and then, okay, well what's an example of what that feels like? Okay. Like one of my clients, it feels like driving down the highway in the convertible. So she's driving and she's imagining hair whipping through and she's, and I said, well, where are you driving to? And she goes, I don't have anywhere I have to go. Okay, so it's freedom of schedule. Okay, wonderful. Wonderful. That's fantastic. [inaudible] she's able to tap into that emotion. Well then here's the second step, the see it. That's where you really need to tune in and you need to say, okay, well where does this show up in my life? And that's where, that's where meditation comes in. Because if you're caught up in monkey mind all the time running around going, Oh, I got this to do, I got this to do, I have five more conscious to do, I have five more miles to run.
Speaker 3: (43:08)
Because that's where my calendar says, that's what my coach says. But you're not tuned into, well, what's showing up in my life right now? Well, and that's an issue you're, that means you're not actually seeing the butterflies that are flying all around. And that's where the magic happens because that's where the surrender to, again, God, the universe, the great mystery, whatever you want to call it, that's where these beautiful is. Wayne Dyer would call them daily miracles. They start showing up and no joke like it is trippy. These little things show up. Like literally a license plate will say the word that like, so you only do you mean so much right now it's, it's really utterly, utterly beautiful. And it's so utterly strange to someone who doesn't practice it cause they just think you're kind of going crazy. That's why I say keep it to yourself.
Speaker 3: (43:59)
Like you don't need to go out. And this could be your little secret. It's no one needs to know. And then the third step is act on it. Now this is where you would Excel knowing you and how you know you're in great shape and you know how to push yourself. We'll act on it. Okay, now you see it. So Mark, you see that, Hey, you can go and you can take that online job and you can move to San Diego. Okay, well you got to resign from your teaching job. Okay? You got to say bye to your friends. Okay, you need to pack up the right, sell your stuff and then, and then you actually need to do really good at that job.
Speaker 3: (44:38)
So it's this masculine and feminine type of polarity where you need to see it and receive it. And then once it's there, you need to show up and perform. And it's, it's powerful and you can just feel it as we're talking about it. Like once you embrace this cycle, just great stuff happens over the years and it keeps happening and, and it's not all bliss and glory. I mean, there's a lot of grief and letting go of the things that need to change, but when you look back and connect those dots, it's my God, what a beautiful day. [inaudible]
Speaker 1: (45:12)
no, I love it. So full speed ahead, feel it, see it, act on it. And it, it's a process. So you said, I mean earlier it could be a couple years. So what does that look like? Daft? Is it daily? Is it morning, early morning before everyone gets up? Like, what's the best way to start a practice? And then how do you stay focused and committed to it? If you're not seeing the things that you're trying to manifest, does that an indicator that maybe they're not supposed to, or at what point are you like, maybe I should change what I'm trying to manifest?
Speaker 3: (45:50)
Yeah, that's a great question. And I don't know the exact answer to that other than that's usually a personal, the type of case I, I've never seeing that myself. So you have an example? We could, we could maybe go into that. That'd be a little bit easier.
Speaker 1: (46:06)
So like let's say someone's in a job they don't like, and they're trying to manifest freedom of schedule or they're trying to, they want to be their own boss and they're sitting down and doing this every morning, but there's no new job offers that come in or there's no way for them to figure out how to get out of that rat race. What do you tell them?
Speaker 3: (46:27)
Yeah, that's a great question. So in that situation, let's say, so what did I hear you say that the person who wanted freedom, they don't like their job. They want to get out of their job, which is certainly an archetypal, there's a lot of people, uh, particularly, uh, I've, uh, I've worked with a lot of people that are high level executives making quite a bit of money in their forties and they have about at least 10, probably 15, 20 more years before they could retire unless they make changes in their life. Mmm. What I would say in, in that situation is, so, okay, for instance, one example here, so one client was interested in blogging and podcasting. Okay. And I said, okay, we'll go ahead and start doing that. And she was like, okay, well I'm going to go ahead and, and practice doing that. And here's the funny part. She went to a meetup and she started just doing that just to sort of see. She acted on it, right? It was like, okay, [inaudible] [inaudible] never led to a blog or to a podcast. Right. But what it ended up doing was it led to one to one coaching where she was able to work with younger women and she was able to be an amazing mentor. And she established herself as a coach for young women entrepreneurs who appreciated her elder wisdom as in a former Apple executive.
Speaker 1: (47:52)
So what I'm hearing you say, I interviewed Cathy Heller a few weeks ago and she and she based like one of the big things she preaches is take action. You don't have to know where you're going. If you can start taking some action, things will flow behind it and you've got to trust the process.
Speaker 3: (48:08)
Yeah, yeah, yeah, definitely. And that's, that's great advice. I would say the same as well. I would just say, when you're taking the action, just where are you stepping? And that's where, when you, when you meditate and you step into, well, how does this feel for me? Does this feel energizing or does this take away energy? You know where to stop, right? If, for instance, in the person's example where they're like, Hey, I'm not happy with my job. Well, okay then. And you want freedom. Okay. Well what's an example of, of people that have freedom? Well, I heard of this podcast or Stephanie who runs a real estate blog and talks to entrepreneurs and she's able to work from home. So, okay, well go take a look at that and see what it's like and act on it and it leads. That's where, of course though you don't want to get fixated on, that's the type of thing that I want to do. Sure. Said instead you pay attention to the new, the other things that come your way. But uh, quite honestly, more often than not, things start popping up, which is interesting.
Speaker 1: (49:08)
I was going to say, it sounds like the success rates pretty high.
Speaker 3: (49:12)
It is. It always is. Um, the, the thing to be clear though is is the timetable is always mercurial. And so that's something that a lot of people I have difficulty with because here's the truth. If you're unhappy with your job and you want a freedom, they want freedom and say you're living in a really nice house. Well, you, you could actually, if you really wanted to, you could quit that job and you can go move into a one bedroom apartment, but do you want that? Right? No, I don't. So okay, well let's start doing a side hustle. Let's start taking, you know, doing different things on the side and then seeing where that goes. The beautiful thing is in the manifestation process, when someone's working through the shocker system and then they, that image that I use, if you're familiar with the movie screen, the things that start popping up that helps you see where to go and where that comes from.
Speaker 3: (50:13)
I can't tell you I can, I have an idea of where that comes from, but what's interesting is there's these visuals that come up on the screen and you're like, interesting, okay, okay. That can help you make a of where do I want to put my feet next? If I want to join a meetup, which meet up do I want to join? If I want to read a book, which book do I want to join? If or read rather if I want to start a side business, what, what type of business would it would it possibly be in and where that comes from, again, I can't tell you with specifics, but it's pretty interesting that it comes from this deep sense of self. So as far as we talked about our unlimited potential. Yeah. You mentioned about how to prepare your energy before a big meeting or an event. So what does that look like?
Speaker 3: (51:10)
Uh, that'd be great. One. Um, yeah, that one's, that one's really fun. That's actually been a lot of my current work playing around with different Daoist ways of using emotion as energy. Um, but in all honesty, the thing that I do is I do a hundred breaths of power and then, uh, so all that is, is you, you, you're familiar with Wim Hoff, I'm assuming, knowing you so far. No, you're not. You're not the ice man. You never heard that guy. He's made it. He's made it very popular. His, his version is a little bit different, but this is all you do is you just take a hundred breaths. So you can do this in the bathroom w whichever you don't. Again, like the things that I always talk about, do it in a private, I mean even with my male clients, I'll talk about testicle breathing.
Speaker 3: (51:51)
Like this is, no one needs to know you're doing this, you know, like it just needs, it's just, just do it and then tell me there's a work and, and when people ask you, Hey, what's your secret? Maybe you could talk about it, but there's stuff like, no, no one needs to know this one story on Instagram. No you don't. Yup. Please don't do tests to go breathing on Instagram. I don't need to see that. So this one's super simple. It's a hundred breaths of power. And again, it could be done in the bathroom and all you do is you do a little bit more of a forced inhale with a, with a relaxed Accell. So it could sound like does.
Speaker 3: (52:33)
And you could feel the body start to warm up. You're oxygenating the blood throughout the body a little bit, but as you are breathing, you're feeling, you're imagining the felt sense of feeling empowered at whatever you're going to do. So for instance, okay, I, I, I, uh, I'm a TEDx organizer and I've helped with, uh, uh, people, you know, put together their speech, right? And so before going on stage, this is something I'll have them do where they'll do this breathing and they'll imagine being on stage. They'll imagine dropping that line and the person in the audience laughs there. They'll imagine them saying their closing phrase or their last word, and then the audience erupts into laughter or I mean into applause. And they'll feel their skin warm, you know, from, Oh my gosh, I did it. So you have the ground on their feet as they're walking off.
Speaker 3: (53:28)
And that's why I call it a hundred breasts of power. So you do this type of breathing, feeling in power with, with whatever you want to do. So you at the marathon, it would be you running that day marathon, it would be mile 13, high five, high five. And your, your partner, it would be at mile 20 where you start feeling the legs a little bit. But all of a sudden you think of someone in your life that you love and I know it would be that mile 26.2 where you cross that finish line, the tape breaks and you go, Oh my God, I did it. How beautiful. As you're doing that breath and takes just a few minutes.
Speaker 1: (54:02)
So do you. Okay, so I was watching you. But for the audience you breathe through your nose and out through your nose or your mouth
Speaker 3: (54:09)
out through your mouth. It possible not to be clear. It's not mandatory. You can breathe through the mouth if needed. Some people, depending on their nasal, duh, they can't do that and you shouldn't get lightheaded. So pay attention to your own body. I usually only, I usually do this one live with people just to make sure that they're doing it [inaudible] as well. Mmm. But what's most important is that you're just inhaling a little bit more to be 100% clear. You're not doing this because I see people doing that. Cause my God, we as Americans were like, I'm going to, someone tells me to run a, you know, a mile, I'm going to run a hundred. No, it's like just a little bit more of an inhale.
Speaker 1: (54:48)
And when you're doing it, are your eyes open or closed?
Speaker 3: (54:51)
I personally do an open.
Speaker 1: (54:52)
And then are you in your visualizing the whole event the way you want it to unfold?
Speaker 3: (54:58)
Yeah. So whatever it is that you're looking to do, if it's that marathon or if it's landing that sale, if it's, uh, maybe, you know, given that speech, whichever it is, I can't think of other examples.
Speaker 1: (55:09)
So this would be a great thing to do if, I mean, a lot of us are busy on Saturdays, Sundays, that kind of thing. Getting ready for the weekend sales.
Speaker 3: (55:18)
Yeah. Oh absolutely. Right. Right before you can even do it in the car. I have some people do it in the car before they walk into a meeting. Uh, particularly one. For instance, if you're pitching a one client who was pitching VCs for a new app that you want it to launch. And so that's what he did before going in and he walked in like a boss. Yeah. You know, you walked in and feeling charged, ready to go and uh, it works.
Speaker 1: (55:46)
And then the last thing I want to ask you about, one of the last thing, but the last thing we'll play up time for us. You mentioned about how to achieve deep sleep. So going from energy to deep sleep, but I think sleep is so important.
Speaker 3: (55:57)
Sleep is ridiculously important. Yeah. I, one of my hoax in life is, is too see science catch up to this thing called sleep. I mean, what exactly goes on? It's eight hours a day about for the majority of our lives. And we have no clue really what's happening. We just sort of, so yeah, the body's energizing. Like we're a Tesla car that's being charged. There's, there's more to it. Very clear and young had his beautiful ideas and I tend to align with those. But how do we achieve deep sleep? Right. And Delta state is where we want to get when we're sleeping so we can have really good deep sleep. Uh, with that one in particular, it's actually just the opposite for the breathing. So it's slowing down the breathing. And what my, this is my practice that I like to do is I imagine a ball of light moving from the forehead down to the tips of the toes on the inhale and then on the exhale moving from the heels of the feet to the top of the back of the head.
Speaker 3: (57:03)
So I inhaled down the front all the way to my feet and then exhale back from my heels up to my head and I do it just a slow, calm breath. Eventually working up to her, it's 10 seconds down to the bottom and then 10 seconds back up to the top. And that is super, super powerful. One of my clients, I have them do a visualization where they imagine themselves sinking into the sand beneath and sinking sort of into mother, like a room, like a cocoon that they're going to sleep in and that's really helpful for them as well. I love that that image does it. That's not a universal, some people might find that freaky, but for this particular one it was just very, very relaxing for her and she's able to have some deep sleep. But for me it's that that just really relaxed breathing 10 seconds down the front, inhale and then 10 seconds up the back and uh, it's, for me it's super powerful and my wife is always, you know, she'll talk, I'll go to bed and then so we go to brush her teeth and she'll come in and say, you're always just asleep right away.
Speaker 3: (58:17)
How do you do that?
Speaker 1: (58:20)
And then do you, do you have any rules on like phones or anything in the bedroom or, or near your bed? As far as I keep mine away from my bedside stand, but I was just curious.
Speaker 3: (58:31)
Yeah, that's a great question. And that's been a new learning curve for me. I've been very, very much on this journey now of going, how do I want to redesign my experience with screens? Because the addictive quality of them is, it's quite quite impressive. I do have, as you see me wearing here, I am wearing the blue blocker glasses and then I also have an app that changes the temperature on my uh, phones. Or you have your blue blocker glasses too. Awesome.
Speaker 1: (59:03)
And they are amazing by the way. I thought it was frankly just like,
Speaker 3: (59:07)
Speaker 1: (59:08)
a Hey buy something else. And I got him a few weeks ago and I'll tell you after an hour of being on the computer, I could tell I don't have the fatigue. I don't have the dry eyes. It's amazing.
Speaker 3: (59:21)
Yeah. And so with the phones in the bedroom, my wife actually asked if we could just try for this new year is when we sat down at the beginning of the year, we did our new year's intentions for the family and what we wish to manifest to the family. And one of them, her idea was, Hey, let's just try the month of January, no phones in the bedroom. And I actually had a really hard time with it because I w I was addicted to my phone 100% and so
Speaker 1: (59:52)
even if it's good stuff, even if it's insight timer or something that's quote unquote good for you, it's still the screen time.
Speaker 3: (01:00:00)
So you know, because of her we did it and I swear it's, it's been a life changer. It really has. I'm, I'm so surprised, but it just feels more, it feels a lot calmer right. In the bedroom. And so that's a new rule in the house and I think it's a a good one for sure.
Speaker 1: (01:00:21)
When you talked about manifesting yells goals, do you do anything visual like my husband and I usually do.
Speaker 3: (01:00:27)
Where do you live again?
Speaker 1: (01:00:28)
Speaker 3: (01:00:29)
Yeah, my friend's modality. I love the y'all.
Speaker 1: (01:00:31)
Oh yeah. Well we did a dream board every January so we'll go to double and cut out. I realize with words more than I do. Yeah. If I read a book and you asked me, Hey, do you read the book or watch the movie, I'll have to hesitate cause it's so vivid in my head. Even if I'm just seeing words, I'll cut out a lot of words and then we still, we do pictures and images, but that's been a big thing the last two years for us to kind of manifest different things.
Speaker 3: (01:00:59)
That's beautiful. Yeah. The next thing we're playing around with is the TV cause as we start a family screen time, my wife was raised without a television. I was raised where I played video games pretty much every hour of the day and we both turned out all right. But I, as a former teacher I, I saw, I see the effect of screen time on kids. And so the screens, it's a, it's something I'm currently experimenting with in that way.
Speaker 1: (01:01:26)
Well it makes you wonder when the people that created them wouldn't give them to their kids.
Speaker 3: (01:01:31)
That's true. Cause that's the job. The schools in Silicon Valley, they have no phone, no phone zones and no phones in the classroom. Which yeah, that was a big Whoa moment.
Speaker 1: (01:01:43)
It makes me go, wait a second. What do they know that we don't know?
Speaker 3: (01:01:47)
Yeah. I'll read you this beautiful book now by bill Plotkin called nature and the human soul. For anyone who's listening, that's a fantastic book. If you're curious about raising what he calls soul centric kids in a soul centric family, it's quite beautiful and you talked at length about screens and their application of course for teaching many beautiful things, but certainly the effect they have on ones, a conscious presence is, is without argument.
Speaker 1: (01:02:18)
Speaker 3: (01:02:20)
thank you for being here. I have five questions that I ask each guest. We could go on forever with more stuff, but um, I think this is really helpful and we'll talk here in a second how people can get in touch with you. But the first question is, what's one thing that most people don't know about you? That I can press into a handstand.
Speaker 1: (01:02:42)
Oh, from like a downward dog or
Speaker 3: (01:02:47)
from a forward fold. Oh, interesting. I've been working on that for a long time. I'm very, I love practicing handstands.
Speaker 1: (01:02:57)
Nice. Do you do hot yoga?
Speaker 3: (01:03:01)
I did BIC room for two years and then just out of nowhere I just said I can't do it again. And I haven't, I never went back.
Speaker 1: (01:03:12)
Got it. Okay. The second question, the first part is what's the best piece of advice you've received?
Speaker 3: (01:03:20)
Joseph Campbell. He said, follow your bliss. And even though it's become such a stereotyped bumper sticker, uh, Joseph Campbell is my introduction to soul work. So follow your bliss was utterly profound. And when you look at bliss as an actual emotional experience like that, which makes you feel full of wonder and awe at this beautiful miracle of life. Yeah, follow that cause that's going to lead to just amazing places.
Speaker 1: (01:03:48)
I love it. And what's the best piece of advice you want to give the audience?
Speaker 3: (01:03:52)
Hmm. Use your eyes more just simply when you're talking with clients, when you're talking with your kids, when you're talking with your loved one, look in their eyes and just take three breaths together without even saying a word. And when you connect on that level, it's utterly beautiful. Especially with your partner.
Speaker 1: (01:04:13)
That's huge. Especially in the, in the world written wouldn't sales, right? Because I feel like people are so, it's focused on their screens that they don't, the eye contact is missing
Speaker 3: (01:04:26)
without a doubt. And even with zoom like we're doing here, Stephanie, uh, I will take a few moments and I'll look right into the camera and just acknowledge my client and take a few breaths with them and say, Hey, I see you. And the eyes are the windows to the soul. Right. So it's this, yeah, it's this. Hey, thanks for, thanks for being here with me. I really honor your presence
Speaker 1: (01:04:49)
right now. I love it. What's one of your favorite books or the one that's had the greatest impact? You've named quite a few in this episode, so I'm, that's probably going to be a hard one for you.
Speaker 3: (01:04:59)
Uh, actually it's not. I do read a lot though. I mean, I did teach English for 10 years or nine years and uh, I'd love to read. I absolutely do. The most influential book in my life though has been the things they carried by Tim O'Brien.
Speaker 1: (01:05:12)
Speaker 3: (01:05:13)
And he wrote about the Vietnam war and a, it's a cross between fiction and nonfiction, but he talked about story and what is truth. And he got me to realize that truth is not as simple as we think it is. It's not as literal as we think and true if there's sometimes a felt experience. So if you say someone, man, I love that person so much. And then you say, yeah, we dated for a year and a half and we only saw each other three times, someone's going to be like, what? What do you, how do you mean you didn't even love them? So you didn't say that. So those words don't at all and body, the emotional feeling of the depth of that love. So he using his use of story just played around with how do you actually get to the truth of the felt truth of what it felt like for him when you're at war?
Speaker 3: (01:06:16)
What did war feel like? And as a 22 year old when we just entered into, I think that was the Woolworth, uh, Afghanistan at the time. Something, I'm not exactly sure what had happened, but there were something that had happened where the draft was considered being brought back up. Um, and I have many friends who have served and have deep, deep respect for them. And I went to Vietnam with this book actually, uh, just recently. And just the way he spoke about war and just the, the, the, just the many things that happened there. It just changed my world and the way in which, looking at how to tell the truth. Cheers.
Speaker 1: (01:06:57)
You're so thoughtful. You're in, you're very even, I'm sure everyone's like, yes, Stephanie, you're not, you're just so all over the place, but you're very, it's very like say again. Yeah. Better hair than I do though. It's the hairspray. What's your favorite or what's your current morning routine? Are you still getting up at four 30
Speaker 3: (01:07:19)
no, I'm not. California has changed me. I'm working and working from the computer has changed me. I do a lot of night events now, which is so new for me. I run, uh, some healing circles and a circle every, uh, once a month on a Monday here in San Diego. And so those things keep me up. Yep. No, and, and so I'll be, I won't get home until 11 o'clock or something and like that there are 1130 that will change with kids. Obviously my morning routine right now is actually quite simple. So I have my own little meditation practice where I play around, I do breath work and then I sit in meditation and then I do a simple yoga routine and then I read for a little bit and then I go into my work mode, which is listing out what do I want to accomplish in that day, what does my day look like and stuff like that.
Speaker 1: (01:08:04)
So does that usually take you before you get into work mode? Do you have a discipline where you don't look at the phone or how do you I, I struggle with, if I look at my phone, which is kind of a problem if I'm doing a guided meditation on it because you're kind of like accessing, yeah. The thing that's also the distraction. How do you stay focused on your meditation and yoga and all that when it's, I don't know about you, but for me it's really easy to be like, Oh, let's do a five minute one cause I got to get to these emails or I got to get to these stadiums or whatever.
Speaker 3: (01:08:35)
Yeah. You know, that's a great question. When you figure out that answer, let me know. Because you know, I could lie, I could just say,
Speaker 1: (01:08:42)
well, it makes you feel better.
Speaker 3: (01:08:43)
I could just say, Hey, I have it down. And there was a time in my life where I was extraordinarily disciplined. That was, you know, don't check email till 10:00 AM don'ts. Don't look at your phone until 10:00 AM. And I'm still pretty disciplined with those things. My wife is extremely disciplined with that. I'm in awe at her discipline on those levels. Uh, but for me it's, it's okay. Not as simple as that. I mean, I'll be making my tea, I don't drink coffee anymore, so I'll be making my tea and my phone's right there. So I'll look at it and I'll check. But lately it's been less. I've been checking it less. And the reason for that is because I started up a new thing called Facebook Friday. Okay. It's the only day of the week that I allow myself to go and socialize for media and it's helped me just tremendously. It's shifted my inner dialogue a lot and I've seen it how it plays with my phone as well. So I, I'm less likely to look at my phone and scroll through. So if all I check is my email or my text messages, that's vastly different. And my work email doesn't come through my cell phone. It's only on my computer.
Speaker 1: (01:09:54)
That's a good idea. So do you take social media off your phone and go on the desktop on Friday or how do you
Speaker 3: (01:10:00)
only on the desktop? Yeah.
Speaker 1: (01:10:02)
Smart. So when you're at a restaurant, when you're anywhere else, like you're totally focused, unless it's a text or email that comes through, you're not getting notified of anything else?
Speaker 3: (01:10:10)
No. All my notifications are turned off
Speaker 1: (01:10:13)
Speaker 3: (01:10:13)
Okay. It's good unless someone's trying to get ahold of me.
Speaker 1: (01:10:18)
Speaker 3: (01:10:18)
I mean I, that's the only downfall. But I'm very, very strict about my presence in terms of business. If it's not fueling your business and why are you doing it?
Speaker 1: (01:10:29)
Speaker 3: (01:10:30)
And what I would always tell people in this sense is, okay, if it's part of your business model, I get it. Trust me, I get it. It's a, it's an amazing tool to be able to use. And if it's part of your business model, use it, but set standards for what does success look like.
Speaker 1: (01:10:46)
I saw something the other day and it was, it was great. Cause again, I, I come in contact with a lot of entrepreneurs and even just sales professionals, you know, sometimes you have to, it's not a nine to five world. You know, I work weekends, I'm off Thursday, Fridays I work till nine or seven or eight or nine at night. But I saw an Instagram thing that said you didn't trade in your nine to five for 24 seven and I was like, amen. But how many of us feel like we have to be 24 seven to be successful or to be committed to our, to our role
Speaker 3: (01:11:17)
that that's the site guys right now. That's what so many people are preaching. And for me it's, well what's actually, what's helping you be a better person and then what's helping bring in better sales and focus on those two things. And if social media is part of it, if it's working, then go for it. Great. It wasn't for me back then. I'm thinking of returning it to returning to it in the future for sure. But right now that's, that's not part of my game. And I think a lot of people are doing it just because just like old advertising in the yellow pages. Well it's the thing you're supposed to do, is it working? And if it's not then then why are you doing it? And that's where like you just mentioned. Yeah. Then it controls you.
Speaker 1: (01:12:01)
Yep. All right, last question. How do you unplug and unwind?
Speaker 3: (01:12:07)
Great question. So I go out into the woods and I, so I went camping this past weekend at a place called Idlewild in California, which is this beautiful little mountain town. And I go camping and I sleep underneath the stars and I turn off the phone and turn off the computer for everything away and just try to tune into nature again. So I went for a hike, I got lost on purpose and sat and just watched the CRO or the Ravens dance in the wind and watch the trees on Julie. And oftentimes I'll have a pen and paper and I'll write some poetry or at least try to.
Speaker 1: (01:12:45)
Nice. So how's your wife doing?
Speaker 3: (01:12:48)
She's doing much better. Much, much better. In fact, I think I just heard her come in and we have a few more hours, thankfully, but we got to go vote.
Speaker 1: (01:12:56)
Yeah, I know. We did that this morning early. All right. So if people want to get in touch with you, how do they find you? And then let's talk about what insight timer is in case some people don't know about it or don't know how to access it.
Speaker 3: (01:13:09)
Yeah, thank you so much. So the best way to reach me would be through my website and so there was a contact tab there that you can just send me a message or sign up for my newsletter and the website is my full name and I'm sure there'll be, you'll be able to spell that for people, but it's Mar K, WGU a Y, uh, dot. Me and insight timer is insight timer.com/mark way and insight timer is a free app that I remember when they got started and they reached out to me when I just around the same time I've put on this meditation that, that you found me through actually, I just made that connection and they were just starting and it was around the time where there really wasn't much out there for meditations with apps and they've grown into this worldwide app that it has an incredible array of meditations and courses.
Speaker 3: (01:14:06)
Great. Fantastic. Yeah. And for whatever it is you're looking, if it's to combat anxiety, if it's to deepen your relationship with a partner, if it's to manifest their unlimited potential, whatever it is, there's, there's different ways of, there's different meditations for that and different teachers using different lineages to arrive at whatever serves you best. It's truly quite beautiful. My favorite thing about it though is the sound of the different gongs and the different uh, singing bowls. Cause my wife plays the singing balls and when I run my circles, I use the app, the sound, it's really a beautiful sound that they put in. And I know it sounds so silly and I've never actually told them this. I should probably do that. But that's my favorite thing is the different sounds that they have. It's a really high quality sound.
Speaker 1: (01:15:00)
Love it. And then what do you do if someone wants to reach out? Do you work with clients one on one? Do you work with corporations?
Speaker 3: (01:15:09)
Yeah. Great question. So I do both. Most of my work right now is just a few one-on-one clients. And then I'm actually in the middle of creating a course that's going to be my next thing.
Speaker 1: (01:15:17)
Nice. Okay. Perfect. So you'll have to let us know when that comes out.
Speaker 3: (01:15:20)
Yeah. Thank you. Thank you. Yeah, I'm looking forward to it. Nothing on that yet cause I'm still working on,
Speaker 1: (01:15:25)
I hear ya. Hey, you don't want to sell it before you create it just to figure out. That's what I'm about to say to do.
Speaker 3: (01:15:33)
I made that mistake before. I work out well, so no, no, not yet.
Speaker 1: (01:15:37)
Nice. Well thank you so much for being here. I think this is going to be helpful for a lot of people. There's so much stuff that we can take from this episode, whether it's how to meditate, how to manifest different things in our life, how to get energy through the power breathing. So thank you so much for being here. I appreciate your time and we'll talk soon.
Speaker 3: (01:15:57)
Thank you, Stephanie. It's been quite the honor and again, just deeply, uh, to someone, I have so much respect for the way in which you approach this work. It's, it's extremely professional and uh, that means a lot to me. So thank you for that.
Speaker 1: (01:16:10)
Thank you. All right guys, I hope you enjoyed this episode with Mark way. Definitely check him out on insight timer. That's a free app you can download, you can listen to his meditations, start your manifestation. Let me know how it works out and let him know, follow him on Instagram. He may not check it till Friday like he said, but definitely let me know how it's working for you. If you're seeing that things are manifesting, I definitely want to know about it so we can give him feedback as well. Also want to get your feedback on the episode. Go to iTunes if you haven't already left a review so that I know what you got out of the show, what your favorite part was and that we can showcase it and have more guests on that are talking about the things you guys want to hear.
Speaker 1: (01:16:56)
So if you guys want to also join the Facebook group, you can do that. Um, you can go to the glam girl, boss.com for slash Facebook or you can find it on the main podcast site, the glam girl, boss.com forward slash podcast. All right, so I didn't forget. So let's talk about the giveaway. So this month had sort of a wellness theme to it except for last week, which was just talking about websites and conversion. Had to throw some sales in there, you know, and basically what I wanted to do was to give you guys some more tools. If you listen, a few weeks ago we had Chris Irvin on the show that he tologist, he co wrote a book, coauthored a book called Quito answers and he has been kind enough to send me two copies. He's going to sign them for us. So I'm giving away two copies of Chris's book keto answers to really get you guys on the right track.
Speaker 1: (01:17:46)
If you're trying to incorporate Quito. So all you have to do is go to the glam girl, boss.com board slash giveaway, the glam girl, boss.com, forward slash giveaway to check that out. It runs through the end of may. So May 31st of 2020 and make sure you don't miss out. And if you guys want more details on keto, let me know cause I couldn't do more episodes. Chris has been, um, has said he'll come back up on the show. So if it's like how to grocery shop, what to make and like a seven day meal plan, that kind of thing, let us know so that we can do that for you. Hope you guys have a wonderful day and we'll talk soon.